Hey Backup!
Stand by, this is gonna' be a long opinion piece!
Oh you're not the only one by a long shot, and I
definitely wasn't thinking of you specifically or singling you out. Not at all. Everyone is an individual, and any specific piece might not work for any specific user. I mean the more generalized internet thing that the R9 is a punishing shooter.
I've been thinking about this quite a bit (over the last eight hours or so) and I have a theory.
Please all, consider my disclaimers read: I don't mean to offend anyone, I didn't mean you, etc., etc. ...
I wonder if what is going on, in re: "Rohrbaugh recoil" isn't this:
The R9 is a pistol designed for genuinely concealed carry, ergo it REALLY attracts people seeking genuinely concealed carry. Right off the bat, that almost immediately excludes cops, the primary daily carriers of handguns in America. Cops conceal, but they don't
worry about concealment. Plus, cops are cheap.
So I postulate that many of the people
really initially interested in the R9 are CCW'ers, and moreover NEW CCW'ers. The old timers have their J's (more on that later) their .25s, their .32s and so on. I knew a couple of guys who carried .22 Mag Derringers as back ups when I got hired. -No old timer, shooting his .380 since "Dr. No" (and I do realize that was a 7.65mm) would find the R9 a hard kicker. Plus, they're cheap!
-No, I think the R9 particularly attracts people seeking or just getting permits to carry a concealed handgun, and therefore people REALLY concerned with concealment.
As new to the game, they often have little experience with handguns. They may be shooters: hunters, "average" military backgrounds (meaning little or no pistol work) etc.... but many simply do not have much experience with a handgun beyond a basic qualification or a general gun "safety" course.
Grip is the number one issue I've seen with small guns in my nearly twenty years of daily pistol carry. When people used to tell me that J frames were hard to shoot, I'd look at them like they were speaking Greek. -I don't speak Greek. Then I watched. Their grips were terrible, especially the "CCW'ers." Presumably no one smacked them in the head while they trained, as was so thoughtfully done for me.
They went out and bought J frames because they were "concealeable" (-and they
are) but no one ever taught them how to shoot them properly. Most went by the wayside, buying other larger guns and declaring J frames "inaccurate", leaving the real gunmen on the street killing (or at least convincing) bad guys.
Once the internet dawned, review after review appeared about how difficult J rames were to shoot accurately.
I think maybe we're seeing the same thing with the R9. This gun is a combat caliber pussycat that disappears in your pocket. No wonder Cirillo loved it.