The thing is -- any of them should be easier for her to shoot with practice. The key is she needs to get one she feels comfortable with and will carry.
Of all the guns I've shot, the Seecamp .32 was the LEAST PLEASANT in the beginning. It takes a LOT of getting used to. The first time out at the range with it, I was convinced I'd spent a lot of money on a gun I was going to sock away in the safe.
I perservered and gave it another try and that gun and I finally clicked. BUT with that said; I wouldn't start her on a gun like that. SMALLER IS easier to conceal but it packs a painful punch. I wouldn't have carried it for protection when I first bought it because I was afraid of the pain it inflicted on ME!! Turns out, it's been the one I carry the most -- after all!
I have a Rohrbaugh on order, so that might change soon!!
My favorite to shoot is a Colt Defender. It does have a good amount of recoil but the weight of the gun helps absorb some of that impact. At first, I developed a problem with anticipating the recoil and developed a flinch. With a lot of dry firing practice and training with laser grips, I got rid of the flinch. I joke that shooting the Seecamp cured my flinch with the Colt. That little devil (the Seecamp) really does kick like a mule. After shooting it, I think anything feels better and is easier to shoot! I would probably carry the Colt as a primary EDC, but it's just not as easy to conceal (especially now that it's summer time).
I have a Bersa .380 and it's not a difficult gun to shoot, but it does has a very snappy recoil. It's lighter weight too, so the recoil is more significant. It was my first handgun and I got a lot of practice with failure drills on it. I limp wristed in the beginning and had a lot of FTF... It was a good starter gun for me and was easy to learn how to shoot with. I know a lot of people who carry one as a primary concealed carry weapon. They are reliable out of the box. My husband has the CC version which is a little smaller and easier to conceal.
I've shot a S&W 642 and I was very pleasantly surprised that the recoil was so manageable. I thought with such a short barrel and light weight it would be harsh; but I could easily endorse it.
The easiest guns I've shot are a Glock 19 (9mm) and a Glock 30 (.45). They are balanced and recoil is very manageable. Another nice one is a Springfield 1911 - but they are all too big and not so easy to conceal.
I don't know if any of that helps, but it's a "woman's perspective".
The best advice I can offer YOU is --> just get used to the idea that guns are like shoes and she's probably going to end up with more than one!
