I hope you have luck finding someone close. If you were closer to NE Louisiana you'd be welcome to try mine.
FWIW, the R9 was the replacement for a PM9 that I really liked a lot. To me, there was a very noticable difference in size for front pocket carry. Much more concealable. Trade off is you dont have as good a firing grip as with the Kahr, but for the mission the R9 was designed for, it works fine.
The R9 is also lighter but to me the size and positive mag lock up on the heel of the grip were the deciding factors.
I ordered mine w/o ever seeing one in person also. I dont regret it a bit.